Have you ever wondered why people give each other promise rings? Actually, there are four big reasons promise rings are so popular in mainstream culture.
So what sort of reasons are promise rings given for? For starters, a pre-engagement ring. When a man usually gives this symbolism of affection to a woman, they believe she is the one. However, they both may not be ready for an engagement. This is usually done when both man and woman are of young age.
The second reason a promise ring may be given is for chastity. Parents are usually givers of this ring type to their child. The child will then keep this close to them as a reminder of the promise they made to their parents about being abstinent. This ring can also be a symbolism to staying drug, tobacco and alcohol free as well. All too often children are faced with difficult decisions about different substances. A promise ring is a great reminder.
The third reason is to keep a vow of monogamy between two consenting adults. If they so choose not to get married or choose to shy away from a pre-engagement setting, then this promise ring can show them and others that they are committed to one another without the forced intrusion of “complete” commitment.
The last reason promise rings are a good idea is to remind someone of a friendship. Friends who really care about one another tend to make pacts. This reminder of friendship helps when the person you choose to give a promise ring moves away. They’ll always know that you are thinking of them and will help them when they need it.
So which finger should a promise ring go on? Well, for matters of the heart either the left or right ring finger will do for pre-engagements and monogamy. If the ring is to symbolize abstinence, the left ring finger should be where it goes. Eventually, this is to come off and be placed with an engagement and/or wedding ring. For cases of substance abstinence, any finger will do. However, left ring finger is preferable. If a friendship promise ring is being given, then any fingers, thumbs too, are fine.
Women sometimes wonder if it is appropriate to give a man a promise ring? Although not inappropriate, it’s generally not done. Would you give a man an engagement ring? Chances are: probably not. However, if you are doing a joint promise on monogamy or want to show the man your complete friendship for life, then a simple promise ring or matching promise rings are just fine.
When you are giving a promise ring to someone, it’s very important to state why this ring is being given. You don’t want the other person’s feelings hurt if they mistake the promise ring for something much more than it actually is and ruin what you have.